PolyCon - Canada   

November 20-21, 2021

Key Note Address - Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti

Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti is a breast cancer survivor who has practiced polyamory/non-monogamy since the late 1980s. In fact, it was the December 2013 cancer diagnosis that caused her to realize how short life is; this served as the catalyst that caused her to come out, LOUD AND PROUD, as sex-positive, bisexual and polyamorous. She has presented on polyamory and bisexuality, and spoken on panels at high schools/colleges, and has sat in on polyamory/non-monogamy panels, as well as panels of sexperts at the Center for Sex Positive Culture in Seattle. Since 2017, she has been presenting a workshop she created, called "Transcending Shame", as well as "Polyamory 101: FROM THREESOMES TO WE-SOMES!" Gloria identifies as Solo Poly, and she has two partners: one is local, and the other is long distance. You can learn more about Gloria from the following Cosmo UK article: "Life with Two Boyfriends: Inside a Polyamorous Relationship" (, and you can find Gloria on Facebook (, Twitter (, and Instagram (

PayPal: Venmo: Gloria's "Thriving Life Fund":

Mel Cassidy - Relationship Coach

Mel Cassidy is a relationship coach and sex-positive nerd who guides social misfits and cultural rebels to experiences of joyful, embodied authentic open relationships. Mel is certified in Counselling for Intimacy and Relationships, Holistic Peer Counselling, and is a ZEGG Forum facilitator. They are a student of the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sexology and pursue studies focused on trauma-informed approaches to the mind-body relationship. Creator of The Monogamy Detox online program, they are dedicated to creating trauma-sensitive spaces where all beings can flourish. With over two decades of experience teaching and facilitating in groups small and large, Mel has a reputation for innovation, novelty, and both thinking and living outside the box. Mel is queer, experiences relationships as a solo polyamorous individual, and lives, loves, and dances on the traditional and unceded territories of the K'ómoks Nation in British Columbia, Canada. Follow Mel on Facebook/Instagram/Twitter @radicalrelating


E.J. Barrett - Musician, Vocal Looper

A passionate advocate for accurate representation in media, EJ Barrett writes jazz/soul vocal loops about adventures in polyamory and diverse family structures as a queer parent. EJ will be presenting live stories and songs, sharing real-life love, lust, heartache, and insight on what else family could be. Based in Aotearoa/New Zealand, you can find EJ at

Blair and Karen of Plain Salt, Musicians

  Blair and Karen are two-thirds of a poly triad that also includes Karen’s legally recognized husband, Gilles. They live a quiet and unassuming life in southeastern Manitoba. Before the pandemic, the duo spent quite a bit of time with their band, Plain Salt, playing local venues and collaborating with choral groups. Plain Salt is known for their friendly, approachable take on traditional Celtic and Maritime music. They consider themselves prairie (“Plain”) ambassadors for the music of the sea (“Salt”). Choral collaborations were a recent passion, which they miss very much. Blair and Karen appeared as a duo at the inaugural PolyCon in 2013. They are excited to be able to join again, this time from their living room.

Aly Sildra, Director, community organizer

                                              Aly Sildra (she/her) is presently on the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association's Board of Directors and is the Director of the Polyamory Edmonton Association (PEA). She volunteers and coordinates many events and resources for the polyamorous community in Edmonton. As Director of PEA, Aly was featured in national media coverage regarding polyamory when an interview with the Edmonton Journal was picked up and republished across several major newspapers. As a highly community-minded individual, she has worked diligently in partnership with the Price Centre of Edmonton and the Alberta Sex Positive Education and Community Centre towards building community and supporting those who identify as polyamorous.

Polyamory Edmonton Association (PEA):
Originally founded in 2008, the Polyamory Edmonton Association (PEA) was the first locally based polyamory group in Edmonton, Alberta.  In the years since, it has grown into an active and supportive community by hosting events, guest speakers, and attending festivals; to support and educate those practicing or interested in polyamory. PEA partners with various organizations, such as the Pride Festival, the Pride Centre, and the Alberta Sex Positive Education and Community Centre. Additional Facebook groups, such as Polyamory Edmonton Connections and the Empowered Poly Collective, have since been created to meet the diverse and growing community needs for socializing and in-depth discussions.  
We are most active on Facebook and also offer polyamory books and merchandise for sale with proceeds funding our events.

The Sleeves - Musicians

                                  "They say that music is the language of the soul, and nothing could be truer for this Indie Dream-Pop duo. The Sleeves are an international collaboration comprised of Daine Spowart (Australia) and Felicia Harding (Canada). Serving you on the sonic red carpet with the poise of Feist and the chemistry of Angus and Julia Stone, these two are no strangers to the stage. Add sultry vocals inspired by Ry X and Jenn Grant, and you've got a match.  The two met while touring Australia with pop-folk group Belle Miners and formed a strong bond.  After a subsequent successful Europe tour, they decided to join forces and continue their adventures as a duo. With international travel is on hold, they have had to cancel their tours this year and focus on recording across the distance.  Their debut album is due for release in 2021!"

Polykiss - Conference live stream host

                                            Polykiss (aka Zoe Duff)  is an author, publisher, spokesperson and advocate. Podcaster and Twitch/YouTube Live Streamer newbie.  Zoe Duff is also on the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association's Board of Directors, one of its original founding members and long time media spokesperson for the Association.   She is the founder of VanIsle Poly based in Victoria, BC and author of "Love Alternatively Expressed: the scoop on practicing polyamory in Canada" based on her blog, experience facilitating a social and discussion group and her involvement with the BC Supreme Court Reference case that resulted in the decision on November 23, 2011, which determined that polyamory was not contrary to Section 293 of the Criminal Code of Canada (aka The Polygamy Law) and thus legally practiced.  Happy National Polyamory Day!

2020 Video links with session timestamps

Due to unexpected technical and content conflicts, we have lost some of the videos from this 24-hour online conference.

With appreciation to all of our amazing presenters and deep apologies for the loss of video, we offer video links and session timestamps here.

Jenny Yuen - Author

Jenny Yuen is an award-winning news reporter, who covers a wide variety of local, provincial and national stories, and has written for the Toronto Sun, Now Magazine, Toronto Life and CBC Radio. She is a proud poly partner. She lives in Toronto with her family.

Monica Meneghetti - Author

Monica Meneghetti is a white European settler and child of Italian immigrants, born in the region of Treaty 7 (Calgary, Canada.) Her first book,  What the Mouth Wants: A Memoir of Food, Love and Belonging (Dagger Editions) was a Lambda Literary Award finalist and Bi Book Award winner.  The book speaks to an array of open-minded readers, from foodies to relationship anarchists. Nominated for Bi Writer of the Year, Monica defines bisexual as loving her own and other genders. Since bi and gender-diverse identities both challenge binary thinking, she has observed a natural allyship between the two communities. As a manuscript development editor, her clients include emerging trans* writers.   Monica can be found and followed here:   

What the Mouth Wants |   Facebook   |   Website   |   Newsletter

Dr. Ryan G. Witherspoon, Ph.D.

Dr. Ryan G. Witherspoon is a psychotherapist, researcher, educator and speaker.  He received his Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology (CSPP) at Alliant International University and holds Masters degrees in clinical and general psychology from CSPP and Pepperdine University, respectively.  As a clinician, he practices psychoanalytic psychotherapy with adults and relationships and works with non-traditional relationships and sexualities such as consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and kink.  Dr. Witherspoon frequently publishes and presents to professional and general audiences and trains clinicians in cultural competence and sex-positivity regarding alternative sexualities and relationships.  His current research focuses on the intersections between consensual non-monogamy, stigma, minority stress, and resilience.  

Bone Poets Orchestra - musicians


   Bone Poets Orchestra is a concert band.  Eschewing the club scene, Bone Poets built their audience by self-producing house concerts, renting community centers, small theatres and festivals like Faerieworlds (main stage for five years running 2005-2009) and others. The band crowd-sourced their recordings with "Adopt-a-Song" (long before there was Kickstarter) and put out 10 CDs over the years, all paid for by enthusiastic fans who wanted to make the music happen. Bone Poets Orchestra explores wildly different textures through a "no stylistic borders" policy - all enhanced by 40 years of immersion in just about every musical style.  Live, the band leads with stories - sometimes visited by an alter ego, St. Crispy, Patron of Flashbacks and Household Clutter - and there is a fair amount of singing along and dancing too.  Bone Poets Orchestra's current line-up is an impressive group of world-class players.  Christopher Bingham (Lead Vocal), Sue Tinney (Co-lead Vocal), Jay Kenney (Keyboards), Dan Mohler (Frett-less Base). TJ Morris (Drums), Larry Golding (Violin), Sunnie Larsen (Viola and Voice) and Taryn Webber (Cello and Voice).    Bone Poets Releases: Vitus Dance (2007),  Belladonna Smiles (2010), Atheist Anthems (2011), Ecstasy in the Ruins (2014). Edge of the Western World (2016),  Tastes Better When You Share (2019)       

For more information, contact Christopher Bingham at 

Tiffany Sostar - Writer, Facilitator, Narrative Therapist

                  Tiffany Sostar is a writer, editor, community organizer, course instructor, and narrative therapist. They are bisexual, non-binary, polyamorous, and chronic-pain enhanced. You can find them online at or email them at You can also find them presenting workshops, facilitating An Unexpected Light (their online course in narrative therapy and speculative fiction), offering consultation services to other therapists, and creating zines and collective documents.

Steve Harvey - community organizer

                                            Stephen Harvey has been an organizer in bi+ communities for 30 years. He is currently involved with the Bi+World Meetup. He has been involved with the Bi+ Arts Festival, the Toronto Bi+ Network. He was a former member of the Toronto Bisexuality Education Project, organizers of the 9th International Conference on Bisexuality, Gender and Sexual Diversity, held in Toronto in 2006. He was also a co-founder of BiNetCanada, an attempt to create a national Canadian bisexual organization, which lasted from 1999 to 2007.                                                               

Jacques TreviƱo - Digital Artist & Poly community organizer in Mexico

                                       Jacques Treviño is a Digital Artist from Monterrey México; he has worked with worldwide companies helping communicate and teach through images and media, founder member and manager of the Monterrey polyamorous community since 2013, making efforts to help like-minded people in the local community get informed about the poly movement and promote a kinder and more empathic way of living. Poly and proud.


Closing Comments - Dr. Kim Tallbear - Associate Professor

                              "Kim TallBear is Associate Professor, Faculty of Native Studies, University of Alberta, and Canada Research Chair in Indigenous Peoples, Technoscience & Environment. She is building a research hub in Indigenous Science, Technology, and Society. Follow them at and @indigenous_sts. TallBear is author of Native American DNA: Tribal Belonging and the False Promise of Genetic Science (University of Minnesota Press, 2013). Her Indigenous STS work recently turned to also address decolonial and Indigenous sexualities. She founded a University of Alberta arts-based research lab and co-produces the sexy storytelling show, Tipi Confessions, sparked by the popular Austin, Texas show, Bedpost Confessions. Building on lessons learned with geneticists about how race categories get settled, TallBear is working on a book that interrogates settler-colonial commitments to settlement in place, within disciplines, and within monogamous, state-sanctioned marriage. She is a citizen of the Sisseton-Wahpeton Oyate in South Dakota. She tweets @KimTallBear and @CriticalPoly."

Dr. Ruth Neustifter, PhD

Dr Ruth Neustifter is an assistant professor and graduate faculty member at the University of Guelph (Ontario, Canada) in the Couples & Family Therapy program. The foci of her research, writing, and outreach include sexual well-being for diverse populations, and survivors of intimate partner violence and other forms of sexual violence. She holds a doctoral degree in Child & Family Development with specializations in Couples and Family Therapy and Qualitative Research. Ruth has a growing list of publications in academic journals as well as in the mainstream press and continues to create original research in her areas of interest.  Her writing can be found throughout the internet and in publications including The Journal of Feminist Family Therapy and The International Journal of Sexual Health.  Author of book chapters in Intimate Violence in our Communities, Making Waves in Sexuality, Feminism & Relationships and author of The Nice Girl's Guide to Talking Dirty. 

C.J. Jackman Zigante - Actor, Entertainer, Artist and Designer

Credited Actor Entertainer Artist & Designer, C J Jackman Zigante is 60 years old, young at heart, with good enough genes to lie about her age, but choosing not to Click Me!.  She is a Lifestyle & Sex-Positive Advocate and  LGBTQ+2 BIPOC Rights Activist. Proudly and openly  Bi-Poly. Happily ensconced in a six-year closed triad with her husband of nearly 26 yrs, Len, and wifey number two, Tabby, who joined their family in 2014.  Then, just to show they meant business and they're in it for the long haul. C J Len & Tabby made it hand-fast official on June 24th, 2019. The three of them, along with their fur-babies Basil & Ginger, reside in beautiful Maple Ridge, BC.
You can learn more about C J and check out all the hats she wears via the links below.

John David "Hobbes" Hickey - Writer, Storyteller


John David “Hobbes” Hickey is a writer and storyteller based in Montreal, Quebec.  He has been actively polyamorous since 2004 and is the founder and admin of Polyamory Canada, a Facebook community Group created in December 2013.  He is also highly regarded as a storytelling Bard and has told tales in festivals and other events across the country. You can listen and watch his performances at

You can reach Hobbes at:        

Email:  Facebook: Hobbes Hickey   

Windsor Polyamory with Reg Robson, Educator & Podcaster

                                            Reg Robson is an educator, podcaster, father, and has been a co-organizer of the Windsor Polyamory community for the last five years. He is the host of the “This Polyamorous Life” podcast. The pandemic changed the needs of the community. He has created a versatile virtual space to ensure a sense of support during long periods of isolation, and to keep members connected even when meeting in person isn't possible. As the journey continues, he is concerned with continuing to find the best ways to create a community that fills the needs of its members.

Belle "Pepper" Phillips - community organizer, speaker, blogger

                                      Belle “Pepper” Phillips (She/Her) is a community organizer, speaker, blogger, and mentor who specializes in negotiating complex relationship agreements and navigating alternative relationship structures.  She has been practicing non-monogamy for almost 25 years, and in that time, has watched the culture change and community grow exponentially.  Belle is actively engaged in local and international non-monogamous communities, hosts seminars and workshops, and sits on the boards for various non-profits.  This experience has enabled her to assist those who want to approach their relationships in different ways.  Her unique approach combines learnings she gained while mentoring and building high functioning project teams, negotiating complex contracts, and her own experiences in the practice of non-monogamy and participation in the various alternative communities.

Sage Stonekeeper - Lightworker, Minister

Certified Quantum Hypnosis Healing Technique Practitioner
Certified Quantum-Touch Level ll
Ordained Minister
Certified Level lll Reike
Third Degree Black Cord
Sage Stonekeeper was born in Whitehorse, Yukon Territory in the mid-‘50’s.  She followed her parents around to various communities until just before she turned six, moving to Edmonton with her mom and two sisters.  They gained a step-dad and relocated to the interior of BC just three short years later.
She returned to the North as an adult to re-embrace her roots.  Training with elders in Northern Alberta and the Yukon in throughout the ‘70’s and ‘80’s has especially rounded out her perspectives and enhanced her approach for working in the Ministry of Children & Families.  Sage is keenly interested in Indigenous practices, including mysticism and shamanism, local traditional food and medicine cultures.  She was a delegate to the first Women’s Conference in the Yukon in the early ‘80’s, presented at the Women’s Conference in Beijing, China in 1995, most recently co-presented at an Indigenous Women’s Conference on the West Coast of Canada and has participated in many Women’s conferences through the BC Government Employees’ Union/ and is currently a participant on BCGEUs Equity and Human Rights Committee.
Sage arrived in Victoria via Japan in 1989 and was gainfully employed with the Province of British Columbia from 1990 to 2013.  Her dedication to other members is personified in her work as a shop steward and long-time Joint Occupational and Safety member, also serving as Emergency Floor Warden.
Participation in the BC Aboriginal Employees Association (AEA) was very rewarding over the years, where she held positions of Secretary, Treasurer and a short stint as Assistant-Chair.  She has assisted with the AEA List Serve since the inception of the Association.  Since Government support of the Association had dwindled, the group meets less frequently than they would like to, but kept in touch with the group via the List Serve, managed primarily by Susan Kelly. In the early days of the Association, there were monthly meetings and gatherings on a regular basis.  Satellite Association members in other communities were also supported in those days.
Sage’s Lightworker training began in earnest when she moved to Victoria in 1989.  Her ambition is to promote self-healing, self-growth and self-love with peace, joy and harmony, empowering people one coffee cup at a time, for the highest most beneficial outcome for all concerned.

2020 Video links with session timestamps

Due to unexpected technical and content conflicts, we have lost some of the videos from this 24-hour online conference.

With appreciation to all of our amazing presenters and deep apologies for the loss of video, we offer video links and session timestamps here.